THE SMELL OF SIN

The tipping point of life's course are based on simple decisions. Who we are now are but culminations of what we previously decided to say, do or imply. The virtue of self control is not as easy as it sounds. When faced with a dilemma, the weight imposed by the ease of sliding into temptation and saying no is just an unfair tag of war.


As such I applaud all who put down both their feet and were assertive enough to say no to whatever temptation came their way. To fellow men out there, cheers to all of you who stared at nudity right in its bare form and said a no or walked away. Even the most whimsical of you who took to his heels when faced by temptation: congratulations.

I speak out of great horror for any of my readers, who in their short sightedness perceive the short-lived pleasure over the consequentially long term implications of their actions. It is not their fault that their budding and weak will is conflicted over giving in to their hormones as opposed to making sober and informed decisions.


I'll be of humble grammar today just to make it easier for you to understand. Sin no alien to anyone nor is it a respecter of status or anyone. We all know it, some of it intrinsically. It can be likened to a sneeze, we all know when it is coming and it never misses. It is all upon you to suppress it, control it or let it out with such a gusto that it leaves your face with such a mess.


Theft, laze, murder, lies and slander are but petty misconduct or too extreme for most of you that I am writing to. One common denominator that ensnares us all, that daily seeks to entangle us even after we may have fallen a prey to it earlier is sexual immorality. It is an act is frowned upon by both the society and also at the religious spheres. Even in ancient history, gruesome penalties were discharged to sex offenders.


But then even after knowing the consequences of what irresponsible and untimely (outside marriage) sex can bring why do we still indulge in the same? Why is it too hard to overcome the addiction? Can one ever just date a friend and give them a first kiss at the altar? And if that fails to work must it always end up between the sheets?


Well, some questions are better asked early enough before matters get out of hand. I will start with the good boys. For you whose innocence is still intact, don't bother getting curious. Don't struggle knowing what the other side of the river holds, it may be a nice farm of ripe fruits ready for harvesting or raw fruits that could all together poison you up. Know your limits, stand by your principals and make sure you look stupid doing so. Your female counterpart may never understand why you don't want to hold her hands, hug her, kiss her or stay in a room alone with her; but it is all for your good.


This is an analogy I like to use while talking to myself and others who have had the trouble interacting with me: a passenger traveling long distance is pressed for a short call of nature. And it is during the night, so the driver cannot dare stop anywhere for him to alight and relieve himself. This passenger, if in his normal senses and perfect of health will resort to hold it all in until it is safe to relieve themselves in a nice and comfortable place without a shade of embarrassment; and of course he will take his time with no hurries. If he goes for the most unfortunate option, then he would pee on himself and risk the embarrassment of the mess he caused as well as ridicule from fellow passengers.


The same applies to the journey of chastity. It were better to hold it in all together and the end you might even forget that you were once pressed for the call of nature; so called sex; as it too is a natural call for all humans. When the right time comes for you to relieve yourself; you will do so safely, within your matrimonial bed, with all blessings, with no hurry, with all permission and without fear embarrassment.


Now to those of you who may have fallen before, and the taste of it all still lingers in our senses and keeps haunting our cravings, there are two keys: guard  your heart and watch your steps. There is a part in the Lord's prayer that says "Lead us not into temptation...". This in a way implies that when one does not follow a path that does lead them into temptation, then there is the greatest chance that they wont fall. In a divine way, daily God in His mercies makes us go the right path.


However in our folly, rebellion and stupid tendency to curiously seek fun, we end treading the paths that lead to temptation village. We follow a brother to the club, we visit a sister in a weird hour of the day, we hookup with a girl for sexual escapades and at the end withdraw to cry in regret. We all have a ssecond chance, not any of us is irrepairable unless you get super sturbbon to receiving change.


Now, the next is a bit tricky. Once you have succeeded in watching your steps, a greater temptation is always thrown at you. Someone that portrays themselves as having concern for your heart matters come along. Being vulnerable it is most obvious that you would give in to them, fall in love again and open up your wounded heart to them, spend time with them, and some of it when just the two of you alone. Then history repeat itself.


For such I say guard your heart. Until the day you are sure you are ready enter into a lasting, commitment or relationship, then open the door for them. Otherwise assume all of them as avenues to more traps. This sounds radical but we may know sin, but fail to recognize what it has morphed into. We may have experienced sin before, but we may fail to know its smell the next time it visits.


Stay sharp.